Frustrated with my toxic job, I took the question that weighed heavy on my heart, mind and body to twitter.
Has anyone ever left a toxic job without having anything lined up? I am ready to quit.
I was blown away by the results.
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I noticed that my environment was toxic when I kept crying every morning when I came into the office, and I would write in my notebook, “I hate this FUCKING job.”
Late last year, I did more therapy than I ever did. When work came up in my therapy sessions, it was an area that needed lots of attention.
I work with family and have a sense of loyalty. I feel the pressure to hold on, but I can’t do it anymore. At this point, I rather die than work here another year.
We stay stuck in a lousy jobs, bad relationships and lousy education because of the fear of the unknown.
One of my most extensive wake-up calls was when I decided to have a relationship with money and learn about finances.
While jotting down all the money I earned and my expenses, I was not shocked by my costs; I was surprised by what I made at 39. (I am well aware not that I should have been more competent on a lot of things money-related)
I didn’t understand how I let them get away with this for so long.
I have no health insurance, no retirement plan, no advancement, and on top of that, I was being called ungrateful for wanting a raise in pay.
I stayed in a toxic work environment because I was scared to leave. I was also fooling myself into thinking my father would have my best interest at heart, that working for his company would be able to move up in life.
I ignored his comments that “Gopal’s luck is not Seapauls Luck.” I dumb down this riddle as “you might not be lucky in life; settle for the crumbs you are given, be content and happy with that.” (Screw that! I am not going to settle for crumbs)
For years I said nothing, just cried, going to bed in an apartment I hate, in a country I hate, in a job sucking the living life. My soul was crushing bit by bit.
My job is the most toxic area in my life, and if I don’t do something about it, I will put myself in danger. NO JOB is worth my MENTAL HEALTH.
The effects of working in a toxic job.
According to Pew Research, 63 % left due to LOW PAY, 63 % left due to feeling disrespected and 57 % left due to no opportunities/growth.
From the data I collected from my responses on Twitter, 99 % percent found that leaving a Toxic work environment is worth it. No company or boss is ever worth your mental health in the long run.
Staying in a toxic work environment never works out, short-term or long-term. Things will only get worst over time.
In my case, it sure did get worst over time, and not only did it not affect my relationships, my health, and my finances. It significantly impacted my relationship with my father; it severely damaged my mental health.
Toxic work environments can range from having a Boss yell at you every day, maybe take advantage, have you work double the hours, get the cold shoulder anytime your kids are sick or refuse to give you a pay increase after being their years, refuse to pay insurance for you etc.
Now those are just some scenarios. I am blown away by the response to my tweet, and I am still getting them today.
Now we are also living in a digital age, and with that comes easy access for Boss to get into our lives at any given time.
It seems like we have lost the balance in life and need to set some boundaries.
The effect of working in a toxic job is as follow
- Vomiting before work and during
- Crying before work
- Loss of appetite due to stress
- Emotional eating after work due to stress
- Night sweats
- Loss of interest with co-workers
- Short fused
On some of the tweets, they reposted some of these systems. One person got into a car accident from anxiety, and that was the day he said enough was enough.
WHY DO WE LET IT GET TO THIS POINT?
Why do we let our bodies, minds, and families suffer from a job? Why do many people still complain about having major ASSHOLES for Bosses?
I think the problem needs to be fixed at the top.
Why do we stay so long to be so affected by a paycheck?
With all the new-age meditation stuff, you think things will be better. I guess that not much training on humanity, compassion, and empathy is done and we need better support in our systems to help people get out of toxic work environments.
We need to start taking care of ourselves a lot more than we are doing now.
Staying True to your Mental Health
99 % of the response to my tweet “have you ever left a toxic work environment with nothing lined up” were “YES.” People reported back saying that they had no regrets; many firmly stated that it was the best decision.
Employees seem to have taken control over their lives now. In November 2021, the quit rate reached a 20-year high.
If we took the leap of faith and got out of that job that we so dread, the universe might surprise us, and an unexpected door might open, just as it did with all people who responded to my tweet.
I believe staying true to your mental health when it comes to your work environment is very important.
You have to remember that most of us spend about an average of 12 hours on our jobs and that often includes commuting to the place of employment and getting ready for work. We spend most of our waking hours in our careers.
Maybe if we enjoyed our job, worked fewer hours, and had more family/me time, we would not be suffering from so much burnout.
And let’s not forget I think we also need some primary human skills now in these businesses.
WHAT IF YOU CAN’T LEAVE YOUR JOB RIGHT AWAY
At this present moment, I am unable to leave my job, but I have given them notice that I am going. However, I have promised myself that if it worsens and I know that I cannot take it anymore, I will give my two weeks’ notice.
My mental health is way more important than anything else, and I will no longer compromise that.
Given the few months I have left before I make my exit, I do not have anything lined up as I am also moving back home to Canada.
In the meantime, I have asked to reduce my days from 5 to 4 days a week. That gives me time to work on things like my blog, learn about psychology, and update my resume.
I have a notebook beside my desk at work, and I write down what I want to say. Somedays, I am full of anger, and I write, “I hate this F*cking Job,” other days, I thank God I have one and ask him to open new doors for me and make it easy.
Writing down how I feel helps at times to get through the day at the office.
YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS NOT SOMETHING TO MESS WITH
Don’t ever mess with your mental health when it comes to your life. If you take anything from this blog, please take this one piece of advice.
While I did mention that most people did manage to quit their toxic jobs because it messed with their mental health, they still have a few people who said they still have PTSD, and it has been reported that even a few got to the point of suicide.
Don’t let that happen to you or someone you know.
I know it’s more accessible for some just to quit, and I do not deny this.
Depending on where you live, you may be able to get financial assistance.
Rule to follow: have two months or more of living expenses saved, should you ever be in this situation.
I will never again work in such a toxic environment, and neither should you.
Are you in a toxic job at the moment?. Do you plan on leaving?
Have you ever been in this situation and if so what is your best advice?.