“Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.” Coco Chanel

I have an inner fashionista.

I have been falling in love with fashion again. Falling in love with putting myself together. I have reinvented myself over and over again when it came to my wardrobe, my hairstyle, my makeup and skin care.

Recently this woman who works with me came to work looking like she just rolled off her bed. 

I don’t want to be mean as I am explaining what she looked like, but here goes.

She made no effort in her outfit, I can tell because no one in their right mind would wear big polka-dot pants with a bright purple gym jacket, to make her assemble worst her pants were see-through, and her bright pink underwear was showing. She looked like a hot mess. (sorry there was no other way to explain this) 

This person is known for not having any sort of fashion sense whatsoever. When she does on rare occasions dress nicely, I compliment her. Hoping she would catch on to the colour pallet and gain some more confidence in her clothing choices. 

She somehow manage to recreate the same disastrous outfit again this morning. 

I understand the whole freedom of fashion, but hun how you dress does matter. It can even affect your mood and clearly mine too. 

She won’t ever read my post, but if she does, I will be very willing to go shopping with her, show her what will work and how to make getting dressed hassle-free and fun in the mornings.  


How you dress does say something about you, it’s a statement you give off to the world. 

Years ago I never cared about the way I dressed,  I was too caught up with being depressed and could only afford cheap clothing. Even with cheap clothing I never put the effort in to do my hair, make-up or bother to think about how I was showing up in the world. 

It wasn’t until a cousin of mine who loves to tell me everything that was wrong about me and what everyone was saying behind my back said to me “do you know the family speaks about the way you dress, you dress as if you are poor”. 

I’ll admit that crushed me, I was working for barely anything in a country I didn’t want to be in. On the inside, I was broken and didn’t care how I showed up. I was hurt because I didn’t think it was my fault for my shabby dress code, but it was my fault and I am grateful to that ex-cousin of mine for telling me I looked poor and I looked like a hot mess.

The Universe sent me a message through her that day, and as much as it bothered the F*ck out of me for days and months, little by little I made improvements in my fashion. 

When I started to change the way I wanted to show up in the world, I changed how I dressed in simple steps without breaking the bank, and with keeping my modestly intact. 

I have never been the one to wear short-dresses or tank tops, maybe a good cleavage every now and then but I take pride in not wanting to expose my body and I don’t pressure myself to look like anyone else. I learned how to put myself together without losing “Me”

How you put yourself together leads to mindset. 

How is your mind set and how do you feel about yourself?.

Instead of asking how can I show up for the World, first ask yourself how do I want to show up for MYSELF today?

A woman I was listening to on youtube said  “I am dressing up for GOD”, she went on to explain that being presentable to her creator worked for her to put in that effort into her appearance. I thought to myself that is a very nice way to put it. Also, it’s a nice way to change from a Poor Mentality to a More Abundant one. As so often we are told that in order to be godly you can’t be rich and that is total bullshit. 

Find something that works for you.

Show up for YOU first when you dress and then everything else will fall into place. 

Photo by Anastasia Shuraeva on


  • On Sunday’s get your outfits together. If you can wear jeans to work, then count yourself blessed. Jeans can be dressed down and dressed up.
  • If you like prints find ways to make them work. To start off choose one print for either the top or the bottom, never together. (for now)
  • Choose a colour palette that works best with your skin tone.
  • Invest in staple pieces such as Black Blazer, Jeans, Dress Pants, Denim Shirt, Belts with some jazz, nude tones in pink go great with most skin tones.
  • Shoe, this might need a whole blog post on its own, but you do not need to go overboard but have enough options. Wedges, Lofts, scandels (shoes are personal and should give some form of comformt and style at the same time)
  • Look at Pinterest for wardrobe capsule ideas. This will give you much-needed guidance and they also have ideas for plus women which I love.
  • Give away clothing that you do not use and you know you feel awful in.
  • Wear your outfits with pride, start prancing in front of the mirror and shout “dam you fine”
  • Remeber to carry your self with much love and care, what you put on will refelect the way you feel and your vibe.
  • If you know if looks bad, you don’t feel good in DO NOT WEAR IT.
  • You are always safe with wearing black. Some women don’t like to wear black, but I love it.

Marie Kondo: 

Honestly, you have to wear what brings you joy, what you feel confident in. Yes, it is all about your mind, but all these outside elements like shoes, purses, jeans, make-up etc add to how you feel and will then affect how you think. 

Remember the main goal is your mindset, but even the mind might need some convincing at times. 


Poka-a-dot Lady recently opened up her own business selling supplements. I am a huge fan and have been cheering her on all the way, even when her side hustle has interfered with my business, I still cheer. ( I can’t help it at times, being happy for others).

When Miss Pok-a-dot continues to show up looking like she rolled off her bed and gives off a vibe of “I can’t be bothered with the way I dress or show up today”, it’s hard for me to take her seriously. 

She asked me the another day if I would consider being an investor in her business, I shut that down fast. First of all, if you can’t take care of yourself and represent yourself in a manner that tells me “I take care of me”, then I want out without even thinking about it. Why, because if you show me, that you can’t take care of yourself, then how can I trust you with my money.

Whether we like it or not people do judge us, but they can also sense our Vibe way before they get a to take in what we are wearing or who we really are. Dressing up is a vibe, taking care of yourself is a statement.

Where is your favourite place to shop for clothing ?. 

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