YOGA / MOVE YOUR BODY
“True yoga is not about the shape of your body, but the shape of your life. Yoga is not to be performed; it is to be lived. Yoga doesn’t care about what you have been; it cares about the person you are becoming. Yoga is designed for a vast and profound purpose, and for it to be truly called yoga, its essence must be embodied.” — Aadil Palkhivala, Fire of Love
If you are new to Yoga it can seem intimidating. All you see on social media is the thin, white girl in her fucking Lululemons doing poses you think is Yoga. Well let me just tell you one thing, that is not yoga. Yoga is not about the shape of your body, how old or young you are, not the colour of your skin, what religion you keep, not how much money you have, oh what type of leggings you have on.
Why is yoga such a useful tool during your time of No Contact, Letting Go of Mr. Ex ?. Because it allows you to mindful of your body, it reminds you to breathe, it gives you a spark inside your soul until that soul starts to burn that fire that was always there. Yoga is a Union connecting the mind, body, and spirit.
When you start Yoga, pay attention to your breathing, then I want you to watch your thoughts when you either come out of a pose or begin to shake. What’s the dialogue going on in your head ?. It can be anything from “Dam, this is too hard, I can never get this right, Gosh I am so clumsy, Fuck I hate this pose, when does it end”. See if you can catch the chatter as they pass by. Acknowledge what you are saying to yourself and now self-correct with things like “I am brave, I am proud of myself for showing today, or this is fun I am all wobbly (put a smile on your face).
If you haven’t done yoga before I don’t recommend trying a class from youtube, Please go to a few classes before you try the ones on youtube. If you find that you really love yoga, the number one thing I would invest in is a yoga mat, forget the expensive leggings. The mat is what will make a difference in your practice.
There are so many different styles of yoga out there, so explore which ones you like. Forget, how you are supposed to look, Yoga is not about that. The Western Culture has Glamorized yoga so much, that they have taken away the true essence that Yoga really is.
There is not one self-help or spiritual book I have read that hasn’t recommended yoga. There is a reason for that, each pose can literally detox your body of negative energy or toxins we hold in our body. Don’t be alarm if you finish a yoga class and you are crying. If that happens, that Shit is working its magic on you.
Should Yoga not be your thing then try some walking in Nature and still pay attention to your thoughts.
I personally like to start my Yoga with an Intention setting. Intentions setting gives me the chance to dedicate my practice to someone I love, or myself. I have dedicated my Yoga practice to my ex while I was going through the grieving process. It was almost like a letting go ceremony. I might say a prayer first, shortlist of things I am grateful for at the moment, then do a 3-minute meditation or breathing exercise. Then I just FLOW.
DECLUTTER (CLEAN HOUSE)
“But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future.” — Marie Kondo
If you have stuff that you need to return to Mr.Ex I suggest sending a simple text asking him if you would like to collect it or drop it off at his front door, if seeing him might make you break use a mail service? Do not send any sappy letters and neatly put all his things together. If 3 weeks have passed and he hasn’t called for it and it hasn’t been mailed out, then toss that shit. Unless it’s really important valuable things.
Now you might be thinking if Mr.Ex will come back or maybe you might be thinking about attracting new love. How does your home look like now ?. is it a mes ?. Time to clean that shit up. NOW
“Detachment creates room for creation.”
― Tosha Silver, Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead
If you feel like holding on to old photos that is fine but take all the ones down of Mr.Ex, you don’t need a daily reminder. Take all your clothes as they did in the Mare Kondo Netflix series and dump in all on your bed, YES everything bit of clothing you own. this might take a few days or just a couple of hours. When you go through the stuff ask the question “does this bring me joy”.
When I did the exercise, I was left with 3 garbage bags filled with clothes to give away. I also removed any items from the closet and home that reminded me of Mr.Ex. This is a new start for you whether or not he comes back. I want new love and I don’t want to have someone over while I am there staring at his photo, that is just wrong for the other person you are inviting in. Your home needs new energy because you are becoming a new you and you also want to attract new love.
I also do this exercise with my purse and wallet when I need money to come in. It’s all about the energy baby.