NO CONTACT AND CONSIDER HIM DEAD
So this is an action step and also two mind steps. Let’s start with why you should go NO CONTACT.
When you cut off contact it allows you time to process things, if you have already fired off 45 text messages in 3 minutes, it is okay. Just STOP right now and don’t contact him.
Ever hear of the absence makes the heart grow fonder, well there is truth to that saying. Think about when you go on a diet of how much more you crave the things that are not there. When you go Silent, he won’t come begging or crawling back, men take a bit more time to process stuff and they also hold on to the stress hormone a lot longer than us women. They are wired differently and you have to understand that. If he does reach out keep it short, but I would just ignore him. Mr.Ex should never know how you are feeling during this time. During your no contact, I want you to work on loving yourself. No Contact gives you your power back.
Yes your heart is breaking and we don’t know when it will stop, but trust that time will heal it, but you have to be willing to do the work on yourself and improve in areas of your life that you see fit. It’s your life babe, go live it.
CONSIDER HIM DEAD
Consider him dead, yup you heard me right. Block him, Delete his number (if you want), Block him from all your social media, this gives you a bit of power. He won’t know anything going on in your life, you are now a mystery. You won’t know what is going on in his, which gives you time to really think about if you want someone who is not there on bad days, or worst if he cheated. If he is the one for you, trust me on this one. There is nothing that will keep him away if he really wants to be with you. A real man will show up at your door, make the effort to make sure you are okay, and make sure you are in his life. This rule applies especially when you have tired to come up with solutions and tried to make this work and he still rejected you. This also puts your energy into you.The Relationship is DEAD.
When someone breaks up with you. You have to be braver than you ever have.
There is nothing sexier than a woman with confidence. Hun, Self Love is the thing right now.
Rejection can hurt like no other pain, but you have to find that one spark in you and light it so it starts to burn. Be mindful and gentle with yourself because it can take months.Melo
NO EX SEX….NEVER!!!!
Whatever you do, DO NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR EX, you hear me. You are worth way more than that, if you really have to have sex get a toy or fuck buddy and keep that shit on the low. NO SLEEPING WITH THE EX. Never give the impression that behaviour is okay with you.
THIS IS THE TIME TO WORK ON SELF CARE AND SELF LOVE..
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